You and such and such are "talking"/"getting to know one another"Got things in common you talk all the time everything is going great!Then phrases like"
I miss you'"start coming into the picture.
Hmmm.
Do You Really Mean that?
First, let me say I appreciate compliments and also a man that can express himself, but I get scared because I feel like these phrases are at times over-used and have lost their true value. I've come to realize just from observation that people don't
REALLY think about what they are saying and use very important words/phrases as common vocabulary. And sadly, don't usually mean what they are saying
I used to be the girl who loved the 'idea" of a male saying sweet nothings to me and would just be
WIDE open. Sharing all types of info, that quite frankly that individual probably didn't need to know. Going all out my way to try to be this "perfect" girl and then have it all blow up in my face.
From my experiences I have decided that
I WILL NOT allow myself to be vulnerable, so quickly to an individual who A) Hasn't been in my life that long B) Barely knows me C) I DON'T KNOW THEM!
With that being said if your telling me '
I miss you", I'm not going to be like some other girls who get all giddy and automatically say it in return if I don't mean it and most importantly if I don't know you.
UHHH NO!
Okay you miss me, well WHY do you miss me? What do you miss about me? We haven't shared that many memories yet, or hung out that much, so SIR what exactly do you miss about me? Maybe people should be more specific and say I miss this or that about u. I take " i miss you" very personal and don't think it should be said to any ol body.
Am I wrong to question that?
Personally when I say I miss a person. Its because that person in one way or another has had an impact on my life. This goes for friends, family or significant others. I miss their presence/personality/smile/thoughts etc. More than often I haven't spoken to/ or seen that person in awhile which ultimately makes me "miss them". If I just met you and we haven't even been on a date yet all we do is text, talk, and tweet - _ - you' re still very new to me and I refuse to let you have the privilege of seeing me in other aspects in such a short amount of time. But if it does go somewhere and we do get comfortable then my world will be yours.
Folks you have your
WHOLE life to get to know someone, don't quickly open yourself up to someone you barely know. Take your time, really think about what you say to someone and make sure you really MEAN it. Something as simple as "
i miss you" can mean ALOT to someone especially because that's usually the beginning to deeper feelings being expressed.
Question what people say! Make sure they can back it up and not just giving you what they think you wanna hear, or what they think is necessary at that point in your "getting to know you- relationship"
Enjoy the beginning stages of a new friendship let it marinate, hang out! laugh! make fun of each other have pillow fights. Just Live in each others presence, once that is set then start showing your vulnerable side, tell them how you feel when you
MEAN it. :-)
miss- notice the loss or absence of
-urs truly
