Alright so Ive been asked my opinion on why there are so many single females. And how I feel about dating and stuff. Now I'm not an expert in
ANY way, I'm still young trying to figure my shit out as well, but here it goes. Ive broken it down to few of the
MAIN reasons, I personally feel some women aren't able to get that male attention they would like.
1.
Date Yourself
- All these #Notebook tweets and dream world relationships that happens in movies are
NOT real life. If you are sitting around waiting for all of that you will continue to be single for awhile. What you should be doing on a daily basis is
CONSTANTLY work on bettering yourself as a woman. You
NEED to date yourself be4 you can expect
ANY man to A. Respect you and B. want to wife you. All of this to say,
RELAX he's going to come, stop going way out your way putting energy in finding a man who "understands you" when you have
NOT one clue who the hell you are. So the
SAME drill Sergeant questions you be trying to ask a man on the first date, you should ask yourself as well. Knowing yourself will give you a more attractive glow, and you will
OOZEE confidence. Once you got that in order, you'll be asking me
WHICH guy you should pick and not how to get one.
KnowingSelf=Confidence=Attractive=Cant keep men out cha face!
2.
What Do you have to offer?
- When thinking about this "ideal" guy, do you have ideal qualities to match? For example
Most females would like a male that can take her out, be a gentleman, funny, goodlooking, has money (lets be real ya'l know its true) and about A
BILLION other things. So lets take a moment and check yourself at some point, do have the funds to take him out? you want him to be a gentleman , but are you ladylike? Are you able to follow up with a funny comeback after he makes you laugh,.. umm do YOU have money? I understand that the man is suppose to be the dominate and/or protector of a relationship, but a
TRUE queen possess all of these qualities and then some, lets her king Run the Throne (as long as he's not sabotaging shit of course) AND then more than capable of running shit on her own. I could be wrong, but the right guy ain't tryna let you go knowing that his potential girl knows when to be submissive and then can switch it up and be a
BOSS.
3.
Dont be a Scarecrow !
Meaning
HAVE A BRAIN, and if you dont have one then unfortunately you probably will never be promoted to #wifeystatus. Being
ONLY drop dead gorgeous (in my opinion) pretty much will just leave you at #fuckbuddystatus. I'm not saying be Einstein, but you have to have some sort of substance to you and be more than capable of holding an intelligent conversation. Or even if your'e not "smart" just knowing whats going on in the world i.e watching the news, reading, and being aware of notable and/or recent movies will get you far. Basically have something to talk about and
HAVE AN OPINION!!!!!
4.
Lower Your Expectations
NOW wait, wait before you start getting a 'tude I said lower your expectations
NOT your standards. That's two completely different things. What I mean is we have to stop thinking that the "perfect" guy is going to find your glass slipper and come galloping after you on his horse. And when you do start dating you cant expect a man to just know everything you like and don't like...us women are crazy and it takes time to learn us. He's a man so he's gonna fuck up b.c dudes are really dumb, but you have to speak up and
SAYYYYY how you feel. I'm convinced that when men were created , picking up on clues was
NOT thrown in the mix lol, just say how you feel so that he understands you more and this goes for the smallest thing. Also if your not wifey yet you cant expect him to do wifey things...its just not going to happen. My suggestion is during the "dating/getting to know" eachother phase approach it as a growing friendship, just be chill stop fb stalkin and tweetin tryna figure that nigga out. Stop planning your future together after date 1..relaxxxxx enjoy the friendship, the flirting, and all the other cute shit that happens before shit gets deep. Understand that he's human and not a fictional character and know that NO man is going to treat you like
HIS queen until you've earned that role in his life.
5.
PRESENTATION
Lastily, be aware of how you present yourself this is in
ALL areas, even though men be trying to front like they dont be low key stalking,
TRUST and believe they
DO. They are looking at the things you say on social sites, they are for sure watching you in public when you're not paying attention, how you dress, how you speak, how you interact w.others. So if you on twitter looking like a desperate lonely woman that's
NOT poppin or if your sounding like an angry just hate all men type of woman...ummm yeaa NO
BUENO. Dress classy, have a likeable personality so when he sits back and stalks you he is understanding the type of female you are. Everything in life is about the presentation, if you don't present yourself in a wifey manner.. you wont be a wifey chick. #
TRUTH
That was alot, and I could go on forever, but forreal ladies, dating is only has hard and complicated as you make it. Just live ya life and relaxxx he'll come when you least expect it :) .
-urs truly
